HOW TO SUPPORT YOURSELF THROUGH GOOD RELATIONSHIPS?
Communication is a daily part of our lives at schools, home, on the streets, in the shop, at the park or on the hiking trail. Face to face, on the phone, as text messages, on the computer. With words, smiles, expressions, body language. Healthy relationships are a basic necessity for humans. That’s why we feel so bad when we are lonely and have no one to share our thoughts with. But how to maintain healthy relationships? There are many tricks and techniques to learn and follow.
We have presented various tips below that you can try by yourself, with your colleagues at work or at school or home.
Supporting relationships help us keep our life in balance. Balance is the main thing!
Tips for maintaining good relationships that you can try yourself:
- Every day this week, set aside 15 minutes for playing, messing about, joking around or chatting with someone close to you. Give a friend the gift of 15 minutes of your undivided attention for spending time together.
- If you want to criticise something, stop and think if you can say something nice about it instead.
- Organise a small party through a video call! For example: did you buy yourself a new frying pan? Celebrate it by cooking your favourite dish and then surprise your friends with a packed meal in front of their doorstep. You can later enjoy and discuss the meal together through a video call.
- Just go and help someone… of your own accord.
- Compliment a colleague… and your flatmate… and your friend… your parents, children, yourself!
- Try to set aside 20 minutes to listen to and support someone else.
- Hide a treat in your friend’s pocket or leave it at their doorstep… into their mailbox? It doesn’t matter where as long as it’s a pleasant surprise for them!
- Does your friend always forget or lose their pen, lunch or phone? Be helpful and remind them of these items or pack the items for them yourself.
- Smile! Here’s an idea of those who can definitely benefit from your smile: you yourself, your partner or flatmate, children, friends, colleagues and even complete strangers.
- Be grateful for or thank someone who has helped you in the past. Tell it to them face to face, by telephone or write it to them as a letter.
- Send or leave a letter of gratitude to someone who is doing “invisible” tasks: washing the dishes, cleaning, tidying up the bookshelf, washing the coffee machine, etc. If that is you then write the letter to yourself.
- Have a 10 minute conversation with someone who you don’t usually talk to.
- Knowingly start three positive conversations or remarks for every stressful conversation or critical remark that you receive or take part in. This helps you keep your relationships in a healthy balance.
Tips for maintaining good relationships that you can try with your team:
- Start a meeting by acknowledging the work that each of you has done.
- Write short instructions to each other on the topic of “if you notice that I am in stress then I wish that you would support me by saying or doing …”. Share these instructions with each other, be curious about individual differences and try to come to an agreement.
- On Fridays, find out how others are planning to unwind and relax in the weekend. This allows the team to inspire each other and discuss if their plans came true on following Mondays.
- Start a meeting with a round of sharing how each one of you is currently feeling in humorous ways (find a funny scale online, use emotes or body language, etc). Agree to accept different feelings and support each other.
- Find an agreement on how everyone can support their mental health, unwind their stress levels and take time out for their families at the workplace.
- Find ways of giving each other more positive feedback.
- Find ways of encouraging communication with your teammates, even when working from a distance:
- For example, drink coffee together during a morning video call and discuss non-work-related subjects.
- Have your lunch together over a video call or take a walk together while talking over the phone.
- Think of how to include those who may feel lonely, left out or excluded at the workplace.
- Share articles and tips (that build relationships) on subjects that are interesting to all of you through internal communications.
- Perform a survey of satisfaction at your workplace and look at the results. Try to think of what can be improved with ease and see if you can achieve these goals without much time and effort?
- Challenge your team members to each donate at least 1 Euro to a charity of their choice and discuss why you chose the way you did. This way you can be charitable together and learn to know each other more!
- Don’t overstress with supporting relationships – sometimes even small conversations or good words help your colleagues feel that they are appreciated.
Supporting relationships help us keep our lives in balance. Balance is the main thing!